d00ch Baby Showers April 10, 2019 16:36:23
The goal of Cindys colleagues and friends: to create an atmosphere both casual and festive. Cindys sister Debra, the mother of 4-year-old twins, offered a simple bit of advice over lunch: "Get plenty of sleep while you still can!"
Its becoming more and more common to include men—friends, spouses, relatives—on the guest list. But it does change the chemistry of the party. You need to decide whether you want that traditional "female-bonding ritual," with lots of oohing and aahing over adorable baby clothes and exchanging of labor tales, or whether youre looking for a more coed experience. Also, consider the personality of the dad-to-be; some may relish sharing in every aspect of the pregnancy, while others may be uncomfortable with the idea of being a guest of honor at a baby shower. The mom-to-be should be able to give you a good reading on this. Even at a "girl power" party, the expectant dad often makes an appearance toward the end of the shower to thank everyone for the gifts. And if you opt to include male guests, take a look at some of our coed-friendly shower ideas.
Each partygoer is given a thin piece of cardboard and a thick felt marker and is asked to write a greeting, a wish, or another special message for the baby. The host then takes a picture of each guest holding up his or her greeting (a Polaroid instant or digital camera, for immediate results, makes this the most fun). The photos can then be assembled in an album or saved for the baby book. As he grows, the little one will surely get a kick out of seeing familiar faces and receiving the messages sent to him by close family and friends before he was even born.
Fear not: There are ways to gently drop hints about what you want, says Caroline Tiger, author of How to Behave: A Guide to Modern Manners for the Socially Challenged. "If the potential party giver is very sensitive or has a strong stubborn streak, ask mutual friends or family members to talk to her," she advises. "Have them say, You know Sharon hates being the center of attention, then let them plant hints about the kind of shower you want. If the host is a close friend and more reasonable, just be straight with her and lay out what you do and dont want."
Although it used be considered a faux pas by etiquette experts to have a second-baby shower, its totally okay these days. "A shower is about celebrating the new life – and if people want to celebrate every birth, even if they have 20 kids, thats fine," says Cheri Osmundsen, a mom of three in San Clemente, California. If you feel strange about having a big baby bash when youve already celebrated childbirth once or twice before, consider a smaller-scale get-together or brunch so your friends can "sprinkle" you with love and token presents rather than showering you with gifts.
Picture-perfect shower. A nice theme for second-time parents or those who have the basic gear. Friends can pool their resources to purchase a digital camera or camcorder plus albums, frames, and other photo-related gifts.